Why do people act the way they do?
I could write a lot about my opinions on things. But I don’t do that. I don’t like to impose my opinion to anyone. I can share how I feel or think about things, but I always do my best to be aware do it in away that I hold a safe space for others to express their feelings and thoughts about the same subject.
Few days ago I was confronted with the topic of vaccination. Even though I shared how I personally feel and think about me being vaccinated, the other person got so angry we don’t share the same opinion that they stopped communicating with me. And they still aren’t talking to me. 😉 Am I offended? No. Am I angry? No. Am I sad? No. I can hold that person with love no matter what.
But – it made me pay attention more to what is actually going on in the world and how people act and react towards each other and why is that happening. This person in particular got so angry at me that I could have easily got pulled into a fight. Honestly I almost did. BUT, I managed to hold the space and observe as an objective observer, respecting the other person even though they couldn’t respect me.
I am writing this with the intention to invite you to be more aware of the reasons why some people think, feel and act the way they do. Some of us are so driven by fear and old wounds, that we can’t think clearly and act from our center. We are driven by our unconscious world and if we aren’t willing to be aware of ourselves and others we lose the true connection and reside in resentment, anger and blame.
So, what if…what if next time you are confronted with someone not sharing the same opinion as you – you would step back and remember that there are hidden, unconscious reasons that are making that person say the words they say or do the things they do? What if then – you could stop – and instead of reacting, hold that person in love? And if you realize you are triggered and pulled into fight – to stop and ask yourself: ‘How does that actually make me feel?” And then explore what you can do to heal what needs to be healed inside of you.
Can you respect other people’s opinion without taking it to heart? In this case, if you want to get a vaccine can you respect that somebody else doesn’t? And vice versa, if you don’t want to be vaccinated can you respect the people that can’t wait to be vaccinated?
Are you willing to take your part and responsibility in creating a world full of love or dividing the world even more? In these uncertain times it is our priority to become more aware and loving. It is our time to be an example, to be the change we want to see in the world. What do you chose?